First Comments

Anon provided me with my first set of comments, so I thought it would be fun to respond.

Interesting blog…I don’t agree with your statement that women would wnat a guy who takes charge of others….but even still how would you even know what the weakness was?

While you may not agree that an alpha male type is what you actually want, and that you’re more interested in the guy’s looks, job, status, money, if you can walk all over him then you’ll soon walk away.  Women, as well as all other female Mammals, are are attracted to the alpha male of the group…Some common signs of an alpha male:  Leader, protector, powerful.  What do these mean?  Leader is easy to figure out, protector of those around him and loved ones, simple, powerful is where things get interesting.  In ancient times a big strong guy could be an alpha because power came from brute strength.  Today power comes from other means, and the most important power is social power.  The other thing to note, is that generally all 3 of these things go hand in hand….

2nd part of your question:  Beta guys, guys who don’t display these skills and therefore can’t pick up women with any consistency, think that the key to a woman’s heart is through showing genuine emotional connections, and showing off their flaws as a person so the girl will take pity on them, or that it will work like a movie because even though he’s flawed he’s a nice guy and really tried hard.  Just let them keep talking for a while, sooner or later they’ll mention their critical flaw or make it obvious by ignoring it.  They want you to save them, rather than sleep with them.  They think their one in the same.

This sounds like it’s for a man, not a woman. When i approach a guy I get weird looks, or he’s a little to excited to see me. And I feel that happens actually with most men as well. What’s the big deal about an approach most women are friendly.

Actually the approach should be the same for men and women.  If a guy seems that frightened to see you talking to him, then he’s probably a beta type character.  One common trait amongst all humans is you like what other people have, because it enhances social status.   Talking to an ugly guy/girl still raises your value, because the other people in the room want to know what’s so special about you, and will infer nonsense to make it seem as such.

2nd:  There is no big deal about an approach.  The issue is we’ve been socialized to believe there is something special, and the fear of rejection blinds us to everything else.  This is a hard thing to get over, and you can’t get over it until you get over that fear of rejection.  Every night I go out, the first few people I talk to are the hardest ones, but then I get comfortable and things become easy.  Think about the worst thing someone is going to say or do in a 10-30 second encounter.  I have a BF/GF, Give you a strange look, just turn around completely.  Conquer your fear knowing if this one sucks the one behind him or her is even better.